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a few others. But Hayley’s most enthusiastic letter to me from Hollywood was about Eddie Hodges — a co-star of hers in ‘Summer Magic.’ ‘He was such jolly good fun,’ she wrote — and it was only later I learned that Eddie Hodges is even a few years younger than Hayley. “Is there anything about Hayley that worries me? “Well, let me think for a moment. Yes. There is one thing. Her success, her great success of that past few years, seems to have made her a trifle shy at times. She misses, I think, an anonymity she once enjoyed. She hates being noticed in shops now. She would so like to be able to walk into a shop and get what she wants without fuss. She rather dreads it when a mob of people notice her at once and begin screaming her name. “All this sort of adulation rather gets her down at times. But, in time, I know that Hayley will learn to cope with this as she has with other problems. I have no other worries for her. “She is such a fine girl, our Hayley — she gives quite well of herself and the world seems to give her quite well in return.” | — Michael Joya See Hayley Mills in “In Search of the Castaways.” Her next picture will be 1 “Summer Magic.” Both for Buena Vista. CASEY OR KILDARE Continued from page 38 that dress!” You’re smart enough to take that not as a gross insult, but rather as a compliment — since he is obviously interested enough in you and likes you sufficiently well to be able to tell you just how he thinks you look best — to him. (And, after all, he is your man.) Now — the same situation with Kildare— for those of you who think of him as your guy. And how different it would be! Kildare calling One has the feeling that everything about this evening would be in a most pleasant and proper form. He would phone while you were still awake, for one thing. The call would be longish and chatty (not that Jim Kildare isn’t busy — all resident-doctors are; it’s just that you know he’d make the time for it). He would probably ask you what you felt like doing on the night of your date. At the restaurant, when the night finally came, he would never think of not asking you what you preferred for dinner — and long before the waiter got around to asking. And he would never, never, think of cutting the evening short if he saw that you were having a good time and that the evening was important and special to you. For all this, then, you adore Kildare. Why? What kind of girl are you, basically? You are a romantic girl, in the loveliest sense of the word. You are what is often referred to as an old-fashioned girl. You relate to Jim Kildare because he is a man who can give you the attention and care that you need. Of course, you’re not something out of a pre-Civil War novel of the Old South. You’re not helpless, nor are you namby-pamby. You’re a bright girl who will be thrilled by Kildare’s attentions, but who won’t take advantage of him. You’ll know that he can often be tired, even though he might not show it — and you will then be the one to suggest an early evening. You’ll know that he would never think of criticizing anything about you, so sometimes you will ask him, point-blank, “What do you think of this, Jim ... or this?” You desire to please him and so solidify your relationship on grounds above pleasantries and politeness. But, basically, you are — as I said — a romantic girl. And because of your young man's nature — smiling, softspoken, considerate — you will find this the most lovely of romances to look forward to. Let us get to the point where the first dates are over with, the “getting-to-knowyou” aspect has been concluded, the romance is in full swing. Now you really know your man. And what you know about him is this: Casey is the all-man type. He has a mind of his own, and there’s no pushing that man around. He gets into trouble more often than not — and, most often, he is responsible for causing that trouble. He believes, very simply, that there is a lot wrong with the world, that there is much too much injustice in the world — and he fights injustice, fights it strongly, not actually intending to hurt anyone, yet hurting many people. He is a strong believer in the principle of the end justifying the means. Small boy at heart Kildare, on the other hand — though fullgrown and with superb intelligence — is still a little boy at heart. And will probably always be. He shows spunk when he feels that something is really amiss. But the world, to him, is a very good place and filled with good people. He is bright Casey or Kildare? Which is Dr. Liswood’ s favorite TV doctor? She’s not telling. eyed, he is visionary. He gets into trouble too — but it is usually someone else who has caused the trouble. Does he blame that person? Never. Instead he forgives. And herein lies his strength. What are you like, if you prefer the Casey image? You are an understanding girl, a patient girl, a girl — and I must repeat the word — so secure in your own personal worth and in the worth of your man, that it won’t ! bother you at all that there will be many i people who, having been offended by him, rubbed the wrong way by him, will criticize you both and whisper about you and even avoid you. But you understand your man and what he is trying to do. You understand that he is a crusader, and that his is no easy task. Sometimes, of course, you will not agree with his particular crusade — but that won’t matter. Because, after having spoken your piece, you will still be there with him. You will ease his anxieties. You will stick with him, always, and no matter what, because you are immovable in your love for him. What are you like if, on the other hand, you prefer the Kildare image? Easy get, easy give You are a giving girl. You are a girl who will give easily all the good that you so easily get. You will give of your own gentleness, for one thing, to balance his gentleness. You will give of your own consideration, of your own sense of caring — again to balance things. You, too, are a strong girl, by the way, you too are secure. You won’t like it very much after a while, for instance, to see your man stepped on, blamed for trouble he didn’t start — again and again. And so, most important, you will give him a sense of support when he needs that support; you will give him the sense of his being the man he really is, a man of sincere dignity and quiet courage, despite the outward boyishness. I’m sure at this point that some of you must be wondering: “That Dr. Liswood — I wonder which of the two she prefers — Casey or Kildare?” To be very truthful, I do have a preference. But I don’t think it would be very fair of me to reveal it in print. And besides, as I mentioned earlier, I found my own real-life doctor once. And married him. And that was forty-four wonderful, beautiful years ago . . . long before TV. The End Dr. Liswood is a prominent lecturer, Executor Director of the Marriage Counseling Service of Greater New York, and author of the best-selling book: “A Marriage Doctor Speaks Her Mind About Sex.”