Screenland (Nov 1950-Oct 1951)

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The only guiding principle I know that can be applied is such cases, whether in Hollywood or Hoboken. is the good old Golden Rule: put yourself in your husband's position. If he errs slightly, con^ sider what you would have done under the same circumstances. If you do, you'll be understanding. The wife must set the pattern for a happy marriage, a fact which her husband may or may not know. I think there has been too much of the text book approach to marriage in the last two decades. I feel we should get back to the "family affair," a more deeply rooted relationship with the wife as a living example. A husband is less apt to break away from such a pattern because it is necessarily based on mutual understanding. If you would be understanding, you must be a diplomat in your home. Naturally, a husband should be too. but we are now going on the premise that you are setting the pattern, and you'll be surprised how soon he will be understanding if you are. 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Profess it, even if it's not sincere. You may be bored listening to his "shop talk" every night when he comes home but you'd better join in and act interested unless you want him to look for a more appreciative audience. After he has given vent to his problems, he'll be tired of them and more inclined to listen to yours, whether they concern your own outside job or the breakdown of the water heater or Junior's not eating his pablum. Although they're big things in your daily life and you want him to share them, remember, he has comparable ones. It doesn't matter how emancipated or efficient women are, men still want to be heads of their households. If you will be understanding, you must be prepared to listen to his decisions, general or specific. Certainly, you should have your own ideas and discuss them. Certainly, you need not agree with him constantly. But don't blast his masculine pride continuously. Let him win now and then; it's very important to his ego. Let him make a decision. If you're smart — and don't like that decision — you can change it. later, without hurting his feelings. In financial matters, it is especially important that you let your husband feel that in the long run he is the boss. Even if you are working and have your income, try to make him feel he's head of the house. Actually, you may hold the purse strings and be the financial wizard of the family, but you can still give the impression that you think Papa is a J. P. Morgan. If you do, he'll be more attached to house and hearth — and you. (Please turn to page 71) 47