Modern Screen (Dec 1953 - Nov 1954)

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The first piece of advice she will hear, probably, is that girls romantically touched should make sure they are really in love and not playing a game. (Later on, when Little Jeannie is married, her mother will have something to say about developing her life in all possible ways and avoiding reducing wifehood to a routine of checking the power of her femininity.) The advice about playing games will go something like this in her mother's words: "A girl may have all the boys in the stag line climbing over each other in their efforts to win her favor but this doesn't necessarily mean that the fellow who beats the others out is automatically Number One choice for a husband. He may deserve a dance, but not her whole future. She may make a good dancer, but not a good wife. Sometimes there is a little confusion about this which, sadly enough, isn't straightened out until after marriage. "Without a whole stag line to play to, with only her husband's attention to get and to hold, she may find herself getting a little bit uneasy. Now, she learns, the job is not just that of giving a smile or a clever word. She is no longer just the person she dressed herself up to be. It is time to be the person she really is. "I think the tip-off Paul and I had that we had a good chance for a successful marriage is that we didn't have to make any special adjustments — love made our little individual sacrifices easy; it was fun fitting one's plans to please the other fellow's. For us it still is." A nyone keeping an eye on the Brink man family would soon note that they follow another wise policy — they do not subject their marriage to undue strains. For instance, take the matter of enforced separations, a common evil in the home life of a movie player in these days of location shooting or filming abroad. These days a husband or a wife leaves Hollywood for far-away work every day. Always there is a statement, issued jointly by the one leaving and the one staying, that the parting in no way affects their marital status. Both express perfect confidence in each other and make sure that every columnist in town gets this straight. What is six months, or a year, or two years apart when there is perfect love? Sooner or later the answer to this question is publicized in legal terms. Inevitably, "unavoidable separation" is listed as part of the story behind the end of the marriage. It isn't happening to Jeanne and Paul. Her career has sometimes threatened to keep them apart for long periods, but it never has. Last August she had to go to Africa to make Duel In The Jungle with Dana Andrews. The trip and filming would take months. The very length of her absence from home was the best reason for her going without Paul. He had his business to handle, it was inadvisable to take young children all the way to Africa, and if they were left home for such a long period one of the parents should be with them. They considered Paul's staying behind. But when departure time neared — well this is how Jeanne tells it: "We looked at each other and knew this couldn't be! We were not worried about our love for each other fading. But when you are in love and that love is important to you — you just don't take chances! Besides, this was one of the most romantic journeys on earth — a trip to fabled Africa — a place that had always intrigued us. This was exactly the sort of wonderful experience two people in love should share. We weren't going to miss it. "If ever Paul and I made a wise move it was this one. There are unforgettable sights and imperishable moments on this sort of trip and Paul and I had them together. When someone mentions Africa, I don't remember it only through my own knowing but through Paul's as well. This, I know, is what is meant by an extension of one's personality in marriage and is, of course, an extension and enrichment of one's life. "I think of the night we reached Africa and flew over it. It was midnight when we got to Cairo and knew the Dark Continent lay ahead. The pilots told us that their course would follow the ancient Nile south for hours to the very heart of Africa. They didn't have to tell us that there was a full moon overhead. This is a phenomenon Paul and I still have eyes for. Neither of us could think of sleeping. We sat up the whole night through, the only passengers awake on the plane, peering down at the Nile. At such a moment — mystic, exciting, romantic — it was a privilege to be together; it would have been a tragedy to have been apart. "There were other moments, much more rewarding, much more significant because we were together and could appreciate THE N ATI SOCIETY FOR CRIPPLED CHILDREN AND ADULTS, INC. II S. IASAUE STREET. CHICAGO 3. III. them through each other's eyes as well as our own." Jeanne and Paul were away four and a half months while she made Duel In The Jungle. Jeanne had to work quite steadily, but she did manage to get away to tour and camp with Paul in Kruger National Park where Africa's wild game can be seen in its natural habitat. They slept in the little thatched huts that accommodate travelers and cooked their dinners over open fires. On the way back from Africa they spent three days seeing Rome, on foot and by horse and buggy. '"Phey found the children, who had been left in Hollywood with the elder Brinkmans, in fine shape. Their lovely home was there waiting for them and the plant, due to Paul's long distance supervision, was getting along fine. Soon after their return they attended a well advertised industry affair and had to walk through a throng of movie fans waiting outside for autographs. As they passed two high school girls, they overheard themselves being described. "There's Jeanne Crain and Paul Brinkman," one miss said to the other. "They're married." "Well, that's for sure," agreed her companion. END