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How to Hove a Happy Marriage (Continued from page 38) telephone when it isn’t busy — and suggest a date. About this business I pretend to be very formal, even when I can hear Lisl chuckling on the other end of the wire. I say, “This is Paul. If you have nothing else planned for this evening, I should like it if you would have dinner with me. After dinner I have tickets for a little theater play about which John Garfield has been speaking.” Sometimes Lisl says in dismay that she has just spent the last of our red points for some meat that is even now cooking in the oven and that she must offer her regrets. I do not say, “Tomorrow night, then?” No, I simply tell her I will call again one day and perhaps we will be able to get together. This is a game somewhat like football, about which I am learning. A good quarterback never calls but one play at a time. Once one makes a date with his wife, it is important, I think, for a husband to conduct himself as if he were a boy friend. He should notice the way in which his wife has combed her hair; he should comment favorably on her frock. Even a hat, at such a time, should not be the cause of malice domestic. Timing, once again, is so important on matrimonial dates. During pre-wedding days the passing of hours was incidental; after marriage the man who consults his watch every twenty minutes has no sense of lasting romance. Once in a while almost any woman will like the idea of dancing away half the night, or of taking a long walk to observe the moon, or of having dawn breakfast at Joe’s Beanery. ONE must never overlook the importance of adventuring together, of discovering out-of-the-way inns and quaint eating places. When Lisl and I planned our first holiday after we were married, I suggested that we go to Cannes. Lisl knew Northern Europe very well, but she had never visited the sunny Mediterranean Coast of France. How should I tell you why I was so anxious for her to see Cannes? There are very few places I have seen that quite compare with Southern France as it was before the war. The hotels were superb; the food, the music and the panoramas were glorious. After breakfast, one could drive — not too fast — into the mountains, and there go skiing before luncheon. Returning that evening, a couple could have dinner on the terrace beside the sea while listening to alternating bands, usually an American band, a rumba orchestra and a Viennese waltz band. Ah, Cannes! It is the one place over there for which I am occasionally homesick. I wish every happily married couple could pay it a visit one day. But for a husband and wife now, it need not be Cannes — perhaps just a week end at a quiet little farm a few miles away, or a special Sunday outing. The important part is — it must be planned, be enjoyed as a holiday, be remembered together. Here is another item; I am a great believer in the importance of a husband and wife’s learning to enjoy music together. Not just opera, nor exclusively symphon No race is won af the start. Be in at the finish. Fourth War Loan. [ cbeef M .jtxinend ■ id never B my 1 ms tVre 1 ate atrd j fabrics. why 1 dervt ^e\\-grooi«®^ i«X use fuUy Arrid. ^ irritates TSIever most d precious Tlbat is au ar booster every ’• 1^ mart at K use j NEW...a CREAM DEODORANT which Safely helps STOP under-arm PERSPIRATION 1. Does not irritate skin. Does not rot dresses and men’s shirts. 2. Prevents under-arm odor. Helps stop perspiration safely. 3. A pure, white, antiseptic, stainless vanishing cream. 4. No waiting to dry. Can be used right after shaving. 5. Arrid has been awarded the Approval Seal of the American Institute of Laundering for being harmless to fabric. Use Arrid regularly. 39't a jar (Also in 100 and 590 jars) At any store which sells toilet goods ARRID THE LARGEST SELLING DEODORANT P M M 81