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my girl wrote to me every single day and my mother wrote on the average of twice a month. Upon coming home, I got engaged to my girl and began to spend more time than ever with her. My mother still feels that I should spend more time at home, and that I should care more for her than for the girl I intend to marry. I love this girl more than anything in the world and want to know what is right. Philip D. Probably your mother’s objection to your seeing so much of this girl, even though you plan to marry her, is that you are too young to marry — no matter who the girl is or how much time you spend with her. Frankly, / must agree that — even though you have seen almost three years of service — twenty is too young an age for a man to assume the burdens and responsibilities of heading a family. However, the time will come in a few years when you will be in a position to marry. Perhaps this girl ivill still be your choice; perhaps there may be another love. But when you are certain that you have found your proper mate, you will have to be gently firm with your mother. Shoiv her all the filial devotion to which she is entitled, but let her know from the start that you have every intention of making a life for yourself and your wife that will be independent of hers. Claudette Colbert Dear Miss Colbert: I come from a very religious family. Now I believe in good and in divinity and in doing right, but I simply don’t want to talk about religious subjects morning, noon and night. I believe and observe the Ten Commandments, but I take an interest in other things, too. My mother keeps harping on holiness and loving one’s family. The other night we were coming out of a meeting and she tried to put her arm around me. It had been very warm in the meeting hall and I was simply cooked, so I asked her not to put her arm around me. She said I was ashamed of her. It’s always like that. If I forget to kiss her before I leave for school, she pouts when I come home. I have an older sister and an older brother and Mom isn’t quite as hard on them, but that is because they are downright 'mean with her if she gets too sticky. I can’t be mean to her. Can you think of some nice way in which I can tell my mother that I would bring my friends to the house more often if she wouldn’t start to try to save them right off? And how can I let her know I love her without having her hanging onto me all the time? Ella Alice C. Your mother is probably a demonstrative person who is devoted to her children and who yearns for their love in return. From your description of your older brother’s and sister’s behavior toward your mother, / would venture to say I that they only increase her sense of being unloved. There are many ways to make someone you love know of your affection. For instance, you might bring your mother an occasional surprise after school. Perhaps she likes some particular kind of candy — two or three bites of sweet ivould be unexpected, not expensive, and would please her. You might buy her an occasional handkerchief, or send her a card through the mail. You will find that she will make many fewer requests for physical demonstration of attachment if you go out of your way to assure her that she is deeply appreciated. As for your religious problem: Simply go to your pastor and explain your prob yy y MAIL COUPON FOR PURSE-SIZE BOTTLE. ' Your own hands will show you the wonderful * difference in Woodbury Beauty-Blended Lotion. Box 45, Cincinnati 14, Ohio • Dept. 525 • Woodbury BeautyBlended Lotion sounds exciting. I’d love to try it. Please send me a FREE purse-size gift bottle. as Woodbury is actually 2-lotions-in-l PROTECTS AS IT SOFTENS • CONTAINS LUXURY LANOLIN You’ll find the thrill of a love time in the velvet touch of this new Woodbury Lotion. So wonderful because it’s a beauty blend of softening and protective ingredients . . . actually 2-lotions-in-l. 1. A softening lotion that helps bring hands endearing natural softness. (Its luxury lanolin is the softening, smoothing “first cousin” of your skin’s own natural moisture.! 2. A protective lotion that helps“glove” your hands against roughness, redness, drying, wind-and-weather chapping, daily dishwashings and soap and water cleansings. This very day, let your hands meet the new Woodbury Lotion. Its peaches-and-cream richness is instantly absorbed . . . becoming a beautiful and fragrant part of you. Smooth it on elbows, shoulders, legs, too. Get it at your drug or cosmetic counter, 25c and 50c. Or, we’ll pay the bill for a 7-day test. That's how sure we are youll love new IFoodbury Lotion. * Name Street City. State ** Print name and address plainly. (Sorry, this offer good in U.S.A. only.) Paste on penny postcard if you wish. MADE BY THE MAKERS OF FAMOUS WOODBURY FACIAL SOAP AND OTHER AIDS TO LOVELINESS