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How to Keep Marriage Romantic Continued from page 43) Hundreds of uch people, it now seems to me, swarmed n me three years ago after Paul and I Ivere married. They said that all the ovely moods Paul and I were sharing /ould gradually vanish a year or so after ur wedding. It was sad, they said, but i time, companionship would take their dace. Now I know such an attitude is just kind of giving-in, not fighting hard nough for a happiness that is one of the reatest in the world. i The first time I ever saw Paul Brinkman, I thought he was just about the andsomest man I had ever met. His manners impressed me, too. The next |me we met, I admired his ability to make riends easily and, what’s more, to keep lem. I loved his skill at conversation, nd the way he likes almost everyone. I’m not that way. I’m shy. I make only few friends, and I’m a dreamer who hates re practical side of almost everything. Yet, in important matters, I soon learned |aul and I were very much alike. Our amily backgrounds are much the same, /e had both been brought up conservavely, Paul in San Francisco, I in and jbout Los Angeles. Our religion is the ime. So are our political convictions, /e both wanted a home and lots of children and our ideas about their upbringjig were identical. iHESE things we found out about ourselves in the two years we went together, tie last one of which we were engaged, nere’s where the companionship comes 1, I think. If, during a fairly long courtup and engagement, you discover you are •uly friends, you start marriage on a very hid basis, which, I believe, is most imortant for the maintenance of romance. That’s the way we started — even if we idn’t have a roof of our own over our eads. First we lived in a house a friend >aned us He was out of town, but the loment he got back, we had to leave. ; liter that, it was grabbing whatever we , juld get. We moved every few months, seemed. By the time our first half year ad passed, we were expecting baby Paul, ■/hen we finally found an almost-permajent apartment it seemed like heaven, |jven if it was miles away from my studio Ind Paul’s radio business. Planning for the baby, we began to >ad up the apartment so with a bassinet, igh chair and baby clothes that the overow spilled out of the one closet and on ) all the chairs so thoroughly that we ad no place to sit except on the bed. /hen we started building our own home, re got into all sorts of difficulties. We loved in before we had furniture. We are ist now building the nursery that we leant to have for our first child. It will e ready just in time for our second. Yet our romance not only continued, but rew and grew. Why? Well, one thing ras that we were never on a fifty-fifty asis. We operated on the seventy-five?venty-five basis. All the psychology ooks and the psychology professors say rat the success of a marriage is much |iore up to the girl than the man. 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