Photoplay (Jan-Jun 1950)

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Claudette Colbert, star of "Three Came Home" YOUR PROBLEMS ANSWERED BY CLAUDETTE COLBERT EAR Miss Colbert: I was graduated from high school in June, 1949, and I am going to be married in the fall of 1950. Meanwhile, I am living at home, on a farm, helping my parents as much as I can. My father gives me a small allowance (five dollars a week) for cooking, baking, milking, washing and doing very heavy work. I don’t mind the work, but I get sick of my mother complaining about this money. Every time my fiance arrives, she “entertains” him by telling him all about my faults. I’m a bad cook, she says. I’m wasteful, I’m lazy, I’m a dreamer. Well, I’m not the best cook in the world, but I’m learning and my father says I’m better than Mother was when he married her. I try not to be wasteful, and I’m positively not lazy. I suppose I look dreamy, but that is only because I’m happy about getting married and starting a new life. When I asked my mother to explain a few things I thought I should know, she said coldly that I would find marriage a big surprise and I would wish myself safely back home. Can you help me? Willa-Mae J. Couldn’t you discuss your problem personally with your family doctor? Although your mother may not be the type of woman tvho is able to express her feelings, she may love you very dearly and shrink from the thought of being separated from you. Human beings sometimes take odd ways to show affection. Her inclination to depreciate you before your fiance is undoubtedly another indication of her physical or emotional illne'js. Don’t be cross with her and don’t feel hurt. You are the strong person, and you must also be the understanding one. You sound as if you would be a competent and loving wife for this lucky man. Claudette Colbert Dear Miss Colbert: Up until a month ago I was going steady with a wonderful boy. I was deeply in love and I thought he felt the same. One afternoon, a close friend of my mother’s came to our house to call. She brought her son who is about five years older than I and in business for himself. In the course of the conversation my mother mentioned an errand which should be done in the next town. This man volunteered to drive me over and back. While we were gone my steady came to the house. Mother told him that I was out and that I wouldn’t be back for an hour. My steady went downtown and there some of his boy friends said they had seen me in a car with a “handsome stranger.” My steady gave me no chance to explain. He has never telephoned or dropped in since After several days, I called his sister to ask whether he was out of town. She said he thought I should come to him on hands and knees and beg forgiveness. I think that’s silly. He should have called me to ask for an explanation. What should I do to get him back? Warda L. I think you should be eternally grateful for an odd coincidence by which you found out, before marriage, exactly how arbitrary, unreasonable and dictatorial this man can be. If he would behave toward you in this way, when you were merely “going steady,’’ imagine what he would have been capable of after five or ten years of marriage. I sometimes think that it is vitally important for girls to be warned that no marriage at all is infinitely better than marriage to a man who is going to bring a girl little but misery. There are always signs on the road to wretchedness, and the statement of a man that he thinks a girl should come to him on her hands and knees to ask forgiveness, is a very large and frightening sign. Claudette Colbert Dear Miss Colbert: My wife and I have one child, a girl of sixteen, for whom we have sacrificed a great deal. She is a beautiful child and, until six or eight months ago, she was tractable, sweet, and cooperative. However, she has now become unruly, rude, and downright rebellious. We have had to revoke all of her privileges. Instead of accepting discipline, she sits in her room and sulks, plays her radio until the house rocks, slams doors, and anwers civil questions in sullen monotones. The trouble arose when some of her young friends began to give mixed parties. I do not believe in boys and girls dating until they are out of high school. Human beings are adults long enough; they should be kept young as long as possible. I do not believe in girls of sixteen wearing lipstick or nail polish, and I forbid phone calls of more than five minutes’ length. Please back me up. You will be protecting youngsters from themselves if they will follow your suggestions. George H. Not for an instant would I question your good intentions in bringing up your daughter, but I am forced to conclude that you have some problems in the exercise of wisdom to solve for yourself. From the thousands of teensters’ letters which come to this column regularly, there is one conclusion to be drawn: Serious trouble is more often caused by too unyielding and too unloving discipline than from too little guidance. There is, naturally, a happy medium. To keep out of trouble and to mature normally, a teenster seems to need honest affection, complete explanation of parental ( Continued on page 6)