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UP lust a little on the particular subject? Preferring, as I’ve confessed, career girls, because they seem to me more alive, more alert, more sharp to talk to and usually more sharp to look at, I’m perfectly willing for a girl to be my equal. But I don’t want her to be my superior. Neither do I want her to be a dim dope who doesn’t “know what beer is, daddy,” and who thinks I am a “great big mans.” The girls in Hollywood are a little too apt to fall into the first classification, and I think it’s a danger corner that too many career girls may drift into. Because they can earn their own way, which usually means living in the manner they desire, and dressing as well as they wish and not being beholden to anyone about their coming in or going out, they get a little domineering. They make an entrance into every place, whether it’s a night club or a private party. They have to be the center of attraction. There is nothing for a guy, escorting a girl like that, to do except play backstop or second fiddle. And if you think any guy likes that, you’re crazy. SO, GIRLS, even if you actually are more important than the guy (and even if he, intellectually, knows it) don’t let it show. The best theatrical example I can think of is Lunt and Fontanne. You notice that it isn’t Fontanne and Lunt. She’s a very great actress, Lynn Fontanne, certainly the equal of Alfred Lunt. Maybe better than he is. I don’t know. I bet she doesn’t know, for sure. And I’m sure Alfred doesn’t know. They are co-stars, equal partners in a perfect marriage. But at home or in the theater it is Lynn who defers to Alfred, who seems to lean on him, who gives the impression of needing him for his superior physical strength and his superior brains. That’s sex, girls. What really holds a man is your making him feel more important, more handsome, more brilliant, more promising than he’s ever felt before. You can’t do that on flattery alone. And you can’t do it, either, by being too indulgent. We still want to be conquerors, we men, perhaps more today than ever, because there is so much less left for us to conquer. So don’t be too generous, girls. Don't be too coy, either. You are more apt to think you got a better dress or hat if it has an expensive label. A man is more apt to think he got something more special in a girl who holds herself just a little high in price. Let’s put it this way: When you find a man who makes your heart beat triple, who zooms your pulse and starts you dreaming, that’s sex. And when you make him glassy-eyed after the first date or two, that’s sex, too. Then he starts doing what he thinks will please you, and you start doing what you think will please him. And that’s flirtation or maybe courtship, if you handle it smoothly. But when you get to the place where you don’t have to think what you want to do to be happy, because it’s whatever he wants to do, and when he finds himself in the same state of mind, that’s love. And you might as well give in. This latter happy stuff is what I’m searching for. A couple of times in the past, as I’ve told you, I thought I almost had it. Someday, and very soon, I hope I’ll actually capture it. Right now I live in a small house with my agent, who is a bachelor, and we have with us a chap who keeps the place clean, still another bachelor. We rarely see one another. We seldom eat at home. And I don’t like it. What I want is a girl who, when she opens the door at night, will say, “Darling, you’re home!” and I’ll know that that’s the moment she’s waited for all day. That’s the girl I’ll marry, if she’ll have me. The End THE LOVABLE GIRL-OF-THE-MONTH loves her^ZkMv£& Plunging BRA Miss Georgia lee Texas Beauty PLUNGING BRA WITH WIRED SEPARATION Here's your perfect bra for low-cut dresses! It fits beautifully, separates smartly — gives you smooth, gently rounded lines. And what value! on,y $| .50 Ask for Lovable ^950. White and Pink rayon satin and lace. Sizes: A-cup, 32-36; B-cup, 32-38. THE LOVABLE BRASSIERE CO., Dept. P-4, 358 Fifth Ave., New York I FLASH: Lovable Bras are now available in Canada!