Radio and television mirror (July-Dec 1950)

Tombs the gentler cream deodorant that works 2WAYS When a Girl Marries (Continued from page 72) instantly, efficiently. Does not merely mask it with a fragrance of its own. Trust Yodora for clock-round protection. softens and beautifies underarm skin because of its face cream base. Keeps underarm fresh and lovely-looking for new sleeveless fashions. Safe for fabrics, too. Tubes or jars, lOtf, 30tf, 60tf. J R M 82 McKesson & robbins, Bridgeport, conn phone, which all the kids have and we don't. When boys ask me my number I never know what to say. The boys can never get ahold of a girl if she doesn't have a phone. I guess I'll always be left out. My father thinks just because he got along without a phone when he was a boy, everyone can. The last time I brought up the subject, he said we should get a pay phone then we wouldn't use it so much. That makes kids feel that their parents will keep them as long as they will pay for all their fun. D. C. Dear D. C: The first and most important question is this, I think: Can your parents afford to give you a larger allowance, afford to have a telephone installed? If they honestly can, here is my suggestion. Why don't you approach your father on a business basis? Perhaps, being a business man, he'll be able to understand a business proposition. Make out two budgets for yourself — a dollar-anda-half budget and a two-dollar one. Show, neatly listed, exactly how you would like to spend these sums, if your allowance were raised. List the cost of the various items — church, treats, movies, etc. Do it on paper, so your father can read it, rather than discussing it. Perhaps this will help. If it doesn't — or if your parents cannot afford to raise your allowance, why don't you try to earn the money? Consider what your talents are. Would you make a good baby sitter? Could you read to an aged person a few hours a week? Or help with a neighbor's ironing? Perhaps you can make a business deal with your father concerning the telephone, provided he is able to afford the phone. Promise to limit your calls— and then keep your promise! Limit the time of both outgoing and in-coming calls, and also put a limit on the number of outgoing calls you make. Dear Joan: Here is my question, "Can a girl of twenty-five be happy married to a boy twenty-one? I have been engaged once before but our engagement didn't work out so I promised myself I would never marry. Last December, I was in Chicago and met a soldier of twenty-one and he asked me to wait for him. He writes to me regularly and is asking me to come out there now so we can be married. I told him about our difference in ages but he said that doesn't make any difference as long as we love each other. E.V. Dear E. V.: Although I don't believe that a happy marriage, in general, can exist for a man and a woman between whom there is a vast age difference, I certainly don't think that four years constitutes an appreciable difference. However, I believe that you should consider very carefully that a man of twenty-one is still hardly more than a boy, in a great many cases at least. I suggest a waiting time of, say, about one year. If your young man still feels the same way at the end of that period of time, I think that you ought to be able to go safely and happily ahead with your marriage plans. Dear Joan Davis: I'm living in a neigborhood where all of the women range from thirtysix years of age and up, but I'm only twenty-six years old and I keep myself up very well at all times because I know my husband appreciates it. Well, my problem is that the women that live all around me are very unfriendly although I have tried my best to be friendly with them, but they think I'm either too young or are they jealous? I wish I knew what was the matter, I have never come across anything so silly in my life. I would appreciate it if you could give me a solution. Mrs. P. Dear Mrs. P.: I think perhaps the clue to your difficulty in making friends in your neighborhood lies in a phrase from your own letter, "I keep myself up very well at all times." Of course I have no way of knowing, but I'd venture a guess that your neighbors don't resent you, nor do they resent your being younger than they are — after all, thirty-six is far from old, you know, and you may be surprised to find, when you reach thirty-six, that you feel every bit as young as you do today! However, perhaps they do resent your "dressiness." Do they feel that you're being a bit superior about your clothes, your grooming? Perhaps they have duties which don't — as yet — keep you . tied down; children particularly, can keep a woman from being a fashion plate. Why don't you try the "when in Rome" theory as a solution. See if you can't dress, and act, more like your neighbors — and see if that, in turn, doesn't help you to be more like them. Of course, if you don't like them, or their way of life, don't want to be like them, you'll never make friends with them. But if you do want to be part of the group, don't be an outsider in habits or dress or way of speaking. And here is this month's problem letter: Dear Joan: My husband is an Army officer, frequently transferred from post to post. Naturally, these transfers often occur during the school year. This was unimportant when the children were small, since I could simply pick up, pack up, and go along with him. Now, however, my pretty and popular older daughter bitterly resents being uprooted every time she has made a new circle of friends. She says it completely ruins the fun of school days for her. She also claims, with some justice, that her studies suffer and that she will soon be far behind other girls her age. On the other hand, my son is at the stubborn and rebellious small-boy stage when he badly needs his father's male advice and restraining influence. I am afraid he will be increasingly difficult with no father at home to guide him. For my daughter's sake, I feel that we should remain in our present home for the next few years, but for my son's sake, it seems as if we should go with his father. Naturally, my own feelings at the idea of being separated from my husband prejudice me in favor of following him but I do want to do whatever would be best for all of us. Mrs. D. C. .