TV Radio Mirror (Jan - Jun 1957)

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Not toward me, our friendship is the same. But she has become very sharp-tongued and snappy toward, it seems, the whole rest of the world — and very critical. It began last term when she got a crush on a new teacher in our school. So did all the other girls. But I knew all the time she was really taking it much too big, I mean really seriously — and he is married and has a small baby. Now it seems something is going on about this teacher, or so the rumors go. The story is that his wife or our principal or maybe both have been told that he has been carrying on with some of his girl students. Now, I go to a small school and I guess I know everybody in it, and none of us can find any girl who fits such a picture, but the worst of it is I have a strange feeling that it is my friend who is behind the trouble. Knowing her so well, I have seen and heard things that make me very suspicious. I do not want to meddle. But if I can make sure my friend is really doing something wrong, should I do anything about it to help the teacher and his wife? So far it is only rumor, but suppose they want to fire him or something? And yet this is my best friend, and I believe in loyalty and friendship. Should I do nothing? E.G. Dear E. G.: Loyalty and friendship are fine things to believe in, E. G. If, at your age, you already realize how much they can secure and enrich your life, you've made great strides. But I'd like to offer one additional stepping-stone to the maturity of mind and character you'll undoubtedly arrive at one day: Honesty. The honesty that begins with being honest with oneself, about oneself. Just how much do you absolutely know about your friend's possible wrongdoing — and how much is made up of your own imagination and of circumstances? How much comes from a possible desire to be ABC listeners get a warm response to personal queries, from, the heroine of When A Girl Marries important in the life of this teacher on whom all the girls, as you report, had crushes? This may seem harsh and it may indeed be unfair, but the answers must be found in your own heart before you give this problem any further thought. Now, I will assume that your answer to yourself will be : No, Fm not imagining. I know she has something to do with what's happening. But I don't know what. I would suggest as a first step that you try to re-establish your intimacy. Perhaps if she feels she can still rely on your friendship she will discuss the whole thing with you, and you can then use all your powers of persuasion to urge her to stop — whether she's been writing anonymous letters or making sly phone calls or merely circulating damaging rumors which have no basis in fact. If and when you actually have some proof that your friend is guilty, you can still do nothing, with a clear conscience, unless you become certain that this young teacher is really being harmed or even seriously inconvenienced by her actions. However, if you are profoundly, morally sure that the young teacher is in real trouble, I think you would be justified in going to him and telling him what you know and can prove. Remember — not merely your impressions or suspicions, but hard fact. Let him take it from there. He has the right to try to protect himself, and also the responsibility— that is not yours. Your part in this potentially most unpleasant situation is chiefly to keep quiet, jump to no conclusions, and make absolutely certain that the line between what you know and what you suspect is as sharp and clear as honesty can make it. Dear Joan Davis: Six years ago I eloped with a boy who worked in the same place as I then did, and with whom I believed I was passionately in love. We eloped because my mother was against him, but I paid no attention. Well, my little girl was only a couple of months old when I had to admit that we were mismatched. There seemed no way in which we could get along, though in himself I still think there is nothing so awfully wrong with this boy. Both of us were quarreling and miserable all the time. Finally, I got a divorce after two years of this unhappiness.