Screenland (Sept 1922–Feb 1923)

Ho%wooA SCREENLAND CriiOni* Why Some Yeoph Are Never At Ease Among Strangers PEOPLE of culture can be recognized at once. They are calm, well-poised. They have a certain dignity about them, a certain calm assurance which makes people respect them. It is because they know exactly what to do and say on every occasion that they are able to mingle with the most highly cultivated people and yet be entirely at ease. But there are some people who are never at ease among strangers. Because they do not know the right thing to do at the right time, they are awkward, self-conscious. They are afraid to accept invitations because they do not know what to wear, how to acknowledge introductions, how to make people like them. They are timid in the presence of celebrated people because they do not know when to rise and when to remain seated, when to speak and when to remain silent, when to offer one's chair and when not to. They are always uncomfortable and embarrassed when they are in the company of cultured men and women. It is only by knowing definitely, without the slightest doubt, what ta do, say, write and wear on ali occasions under all conditions, that one is able to be dignified, charming and well-poised at all times. How Etiquette Gives Charm and Poise Etiquette means good manners. It means knowing what to do at the right time, what to say at the right time. It consists of certain important little laws of good conduct that have been adopted by the best circles in Europe and America and which serve as a barrier to keep the uncultured and ill-bred out of the circles where they would be uncomfortable and embarrased. People with good manners, therefore, are people whose poise and dignity impress you immediately with a certain awe, a certain respect. Etiquette makes them graceful, confident. It enables them to mingle with the most cultured people and be perfectly at ease. It takes away their self-consciousness, their timidity. By knowing what is expected of them, what is the correct thing to do and say they become calm, dignified and well-poised— and they "re welcomed and admi' £he highest circles of i'^^W* society. ° v* Do You Know How to introduce men and women correctly? How to word invitations, announcements, acknowledgments? How to register ' a hot*-* HOW tn *»V<~ .; Of ho' There are other problems, too — many of them. Should the man rise when he accepts a cup of tea from the hostess? Should he thank her? Who should be served first? What should the guest do with the cup when he or she has finished with the tea? Is it good form to accept a second cup? What is the secret of creating conversation and making people find you pleasant and agreeable ? It is so easy to commit embarrasing blunders, so easy to do what is wrong. But etiquette tells us just what is expected of us and guards us from all humiliation and discomfort. Etiquette in Public Here are some questions which will help you find out just how much you know about the etiquette that must be observed among strangers. See how many of them you can answer. When a man and woman enter the theatre together, who walks first down the aisle? When the usher points out the seats, does the man enter first or the woman? May a man leave a woman alone during intermission ? There is nothing that so quickly reveals one's true station and breeding than awkward, poor manners at the table. Should the knife be held in the left hand or the right ? Should, olives be eaten with the finger or with a fork? How is lettuce eaten? What is the correct and cultured way to eat corn on the cob? Are the finger-tips of both hands placed into the finger-bowl at once, or just one at a time? When a man walks in the street with two women does he walk between them or next to the curb? Who enters the sti first, the man or the woman? Whe tip his hat" casions ir form Man; embarrassing blunders can be made In a pubEc restai Should the young lady In the picture pick tip tfte fork or it for the waiter to attend to ? Or should one of the men pick i weddings, parties and ail social e. ments. There are interesting chd\ correspondence, invitations, calls and cards. New chapters on the etiquet eign countries have been added, and many helpful hints to the man a who travels. With the Book of Etiquette to there can be no mistakes, no embar. One knows exactly what is correct an is incorrect. And by knowing so dt that one is perfect in the art of etiqu confident poise is developed which r one to appear in the most elaborate dr: room, among the most brilliant and cultured people, without feeling the le, ill at ease. Send No Money To enable everyone, everywhere, to examine the * Etiquette, without obligation, we ma send the complete two-volume a •>vone request'iit it. Entirely fi •II " -*rv is you . .1 wo