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female Marlon Brando because of her talent and individuality. "Every date discovers I don't cook and don't want to, as long as I can make enough money following an artistic streak!" Don't leap to the idea Terry doesn't cherish all the advantages of a home. She's always gotten along fine with her family, could always speak freely and be sympathetically helped. She's been able to entertain relaxedly at home. Her mother is as young as a sister in outlook, and all Terry's dates soon call her Mom. Her dad, a business man, is just as genial. Her twenty-yearold brother Wally is following in her acting footsteps. The neighbors are entranced by the excitement Terry's vitality perpetually causes, for she democrati about them. Good things. And he can't stand platform shoes or ankle straps. Things like that. I have also discovered that he seems to have a sure instinct which makes him like me in expensive things, whether I've told him the price or not. That's not a bad trait in a husband! "I wouldn't think of going with him to order clothes, either. He is the best dressed man I know — without any help from me! He has everything made to order so there is never any reason for me to do anything about shirts and things. "I did buy him some ties once, though, just to experiment. He was very sweet about it. All he said was, 'Oh, you shouldn't have bothered to do that, dear.' And suddenly I knew I shouldn't have! I took them right back to the shop the next day. "But I wonder if a lot of men don't force themselves to wear things which make them writhe inwardly, just because the little woman picked them out and they can't bear to hurt her feelings." Jan has forthright ideas about a good many marriage bromides. "You're always reading in women's columns and magazines that you must never let your husband see you when you aren't at your best ... all bandbox groomed. Never in pincurls or without makeup or with cream on your face. I think that's nonsense. "Pincurls are simply a fact of life that a husband has to face. If you're going out later on and want to look nice, you probably have to wear pincurls for an hour or two. You certainly don't want to hide from the man as if you had something infectious. At least, I don't. And I don't want to keep reaching for a lipstick every few minutes, either. After all, if Paul wants to skip shaving for a day or even two, I don't mind. I want him to do as he pleases. "And as for looking like a lacy Valentine at breakfast — in the first place I don't think he is likely to notice you much so early in the day, or to be in the mood to criticize you. I want to wear a reasonably unrumpled housecoat (I don't want 67 cally includes them in the commotion around her. At home she needs two telephones, with two different numbers, and when she runs back and forth to conversations on both, while trying to decide what to do and what to wear, the delighted onlookers chuckle. Whenever she begins a new picture they recall the black snake she found on location in Florida. She adopted it as a pet, chiefly to scare the frightened assistant director. She's a screwball because she's so honest, her pals say fondly. I don't think Terry will tumble from the tightrope she's on now as a soaring star. I predict she'll really wait for that rugged, fearless, brilliant, artistic, sensitive he-man who's only her dream guy so far. She's so real that he'll have to be! END to be revolting!) and maybe it's a good idea to tie a scarf around hair which may not be at its best. But I see no necessity for getting all done up as if you were going to pose for a fashion layout. "If your marriage is a good one, there are too many interesting and important things to think about and do together to be bothered about such details. Togetherness counts so much. Every successfully married couple must have mutual projects. Of course we are both crazy about our work, so the most fun we have has to do with that — going to the theatre or movies, reading together, working up acts or just talking about acting. Whan Paul's little girl, Maggie, is here (she is with us one month in every four) we have a lot of fun with her. "Other couples have different kinds of mutual interests — gardens or music or some sort of hobbies. They are awfully important but you must both enjoy them." But what if one likes some activity that the other one can't stand? That is difficult for Jan to understand. "If hunting, for instance, means a great deal to him, then she should try to learn to like it, too. He'll enjoy it more with her than with anyone else. But if she simply can't stand the idea, then I suppose she must encourage him to go ahead without her. But I wouldn't encourage him to do many things without me. I'd join him and try to like it no matter how it upset me." Jan also thinks it is a mistake to differentiate between "woman's work" and "man's work" in matters about the home. "It's our home and Paul has just as much, if not more, to say about how it is run than I do. He is the tidy one in the family, the one who notices whether things are in order or not, and I am constantly trying to discipline myself to be neat, too, on his account. I'm everlastingly grateful that we have separate bathrooms so that I don't upset him when 1 leave wet towels and things around. But if we had to share one I'd do my part about keeping it in order if it killed me. "That is only good manners and I think/ good manners are as important as anything I can think of in marriage." One of the ways in which Jan keeps her man happy is by not cooking for him! "Paul is the cook in our family," she says. "He can do wonderful things with wines and spices and mushrooms and ail sorts of intricate sauces and salad dressings and he often concocts elaborate meals on the cook's night off. He is the one who gets into a corner at parties and trades recipes with some other gourmet and I notice that there seem to be as many men as women who are interested in cooking. "I don't like it, and I have never had any training for it, since until I was married, I lived in hotels. Once I tried to whip up, as they say, a chocolate cake. But I turned the Mixmaster on too hard and splattered icing all over the kitchen walls and decided, then and there, that Fate had not meant me to cook. Paul, I might add, was very much pleased when I said I wouldn't try it again. "I do think, though," she concedes, "that there are a lot of little things which a woman should attend to without bothering her husband. Things like going to a new butcher shop because the old one sold you a tough roast. Or sending for someone to fix the vacuum cleaner. Women have been coping with the small details of domestic life for centuries and they do it easily. Those things bore a man to death— even to hear about them." Jan was warned by well meaning friends not to marry Paul because they were both born under the sign of Aries and were therefore too much alike in temperament to make a go of it. "Opposites, not likes, should marry," said the well wishers. "But I think it is precisely because we are so much alike that it has worked so well," Jan says. "We have the same tastes, the same traits and we understand one another. We are sensitive to the same things, we are alike emotionally. How could you know how to make anyone happy if you didn't understand him? "Because, you see, it is just as important to like someone, as a person, as it is to be in love with him. Haven't you known people who were emotionally involved with each other, stormily in love, but who had no tastes in common and didn't even like each other very well? That can be torture!" And how does she feel, at parties for . instance, when other women, as they inevitably must sometimes, show that they, too, appreciate the charm of the handsome man to whom she is married? "I like it," says Jan, emphatically. "He is my husband and I am terrifically proud of him and I'm pleased as anything when other people admire him. Why shouldn't I be?" She isn't at all certain that her theories for making a man happy would work for everyone. "We aren't exactly average in our personalities or our situations," she thinks. "But I do think that the idea of marriage being a partnership should work for everyone. If it isn't a true partnership, then something is lopsided somewhere." end HOW TO KEEP A GUY HAPPY [CONTINUED FROM PACE 46]